We sat down for dinner a few days ago. Wifey and I talked to Bug about her day and she asked to excuse herself.
“I have to go to the bathroom…”
A few minutes passed and our little one sat down again but something was different.
I looked at her face.
“Baby..what’s that…on your face?”
There was a brownish powdery substance on her cheek and side of her mouth.
She stopped and tried to wipe it off.
“Oh…it was earlier.”
We put on our parental detective hats and started the interrogation.
“Earlier? No…that wasn’t there before we started dinner. What is that?”
Bug sensed we were on to her.
“I think it was from a banana I ate.”
I questioned her, “So you went to the bathroom…found a banana…ate it…and came back to dinner?”
“I think so…”
“You think so? You are not sure you ate a banana? Are you are not sure what you ate?”
She was caught in a lie…she knew it…she needed an escape.
“Well…I think I went to grandma’s room…and ate some chocolate…and then came here.”
I laughed in my head.
“Baby…you don’t have to lie ok? Just tell the truth. You ate candy? I like candy too…you could have gave us some. We both like chocolate. Next time, please don’t lie. We won’t get mad.”
This makes me laugh….especially when she kept saying, “I think…I think I ate…I think.”
She didn’t want to commit to the lie…it was not lying, it was a case of bad memory…eating a random banana on the way from the bathroom back to the dinner table…and not remembering the banana. And then when she knew she was caught, she THOUGHT it was candy from grandma’s room…again, commitment issues. We have all lied, and when you are committed to a lie, you have to go all out…there is no turning back. Fortunately, she has not learned that…but she will. But, as a parent, those are battles we will have….battles we had with our own parents. But, it is the size of the lie that will hurt. Did it bother us that she lied? Yes, of course. Do we trust her less? No. But, as she grows older…the lies will grow.
“Baby, did you do your homework?”
Report card comes….F.
“I thought you did your homework.” Lie.
“Daddy…I’m going to go the movies…with my girlfriends.”
Friend or relative sees her at the movies….no girlfriends…but with a boy. Lie.
The real battle will be how we as parents will deal with it.
(By the way, I apologize for the title…I absolutely hate that phrase…i literally die inside whenever I hear someone say that.)